Should a kiss be a deal killer?
Nope, not a slow week, but the Fox Sunday Morning news crew were certainly bent out of shape over a kiss, or rather the lack there of in the relationship of two people they don't even know.
The question is, why?
You can read here about the two abstinence teachers who just committed their lives together in Holy Matrimony and how they saved not only sex, but kissing till they were married.
You can see the video of the Fox morning crews' reaction here .
What stunned me most when I first heard it was the sheer immaturity of the anchors. I was willing to concede that maybe it was just my lack of kissing experience that lead me to that notion but later in the day I chatted with my married friend Stacy and she had the same reaction to the news anchors.
One news anchor said he'd give the couple six months before they got a divorce.
What? Just because they spent three years talking and getting to know each other's desires, loves, and characteristics, and not the way they kiss? You must be kidding me. Whatever happened to "growing" together?
The argument they tried to make their stand upon was that the way a person kisses you that first time can determine "chemistry" and "fit". Oh and of course, the age old argument from Satan that uses this basic structure, "You can't buy it till you test drive it."
My immediate thought to those arguments was a question.
If their arguments are true, how in the world has prostitution survived for so long?
After all, if a mere first kiss can turn you sexually off then prostitutes should have trouble finding people willing to chance being turned off by someone who makes her or his income by giving passionate kisses and sexual favors.
On one hand the world says we must grow and learn and experiment sexually and on the other it says it's a lock and key thing (either it fits or it doesn't). Now which is it? Can not a person fall in love with another for their mind, likes, loves, and passions? Should a kiss be a deal killer? What if that first kiss was bad because of nerves and the over reaching desire to impress because one valued the other so highly for other reasons? What if they've never kissed another in passion before? Or do you want someone who has experimented and perfected their kiss with many others?
The real problem that the world seems to have against those people who wait, people who frankly are typically devote folk who value saving themselves as gifts for that one special person, is selfishness. They are so wrapped up in self-centeredness that making sexual sacrifices for others is absurd and even offensive because it raises a mirror before their altar to self. And that is an altar that stands in opposition to the temple of Christ.
You might try to make the argument that, "It's just a kiss." Well, if it's just a kiss would you kiss your pet the same way? A baby? Your child? Face it, we're talking kisses that arouse and that is sexual.
These news anchors and their like are focused upon their own physical lusts. They stated pretty emphatically that it was silly to not try the car out first so as to see if it met their needs. That is the mantra of the world. The focus is on "me", on what that other person is able to do for "me."
It's the same mantra Satan used to get Adam and Eve to sin and lose their place in the Garden of Eden. It's the self-centeredness that caused the murder of the unborn child and the Walmart employee who was trampled to death by shoppers racing to get "theirs."
It's a mantra that no longer has power over we Christians because of the work of Christ Jesus on the Cross.
“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honourable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no-one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.” (1Th 4:3-8 NIV)
The Great Separation continues.
